My Partner Came Out As a Man – And I Struggled With Losing My Lesbian Identity - Everyday Feminism:
"Originally published on xoJane and republished here with their permission.
...Amy and I loved being married to each other.
Marriage intensified our already strong bond; it gave us a firm foundation, an anchor when life got turbulent.
...It wasn’t just that I identified as gay.
I embraced being gay.
I loved it.
Being gay took me out of the realm of being entirely privileged — it made me empathetic, opened my eyes to all the privilege I still held, and it made me want to fight for the underdog.
Hell, it made me realize there was an underdog.
I am better, more compassionate, more willing to fight for change because I am gay.
...It turns out that I was the only one here with a decision to make.
For Amy, living out the truth had become a life or death matter.
I could stay or I could go.
But, either way, Amy had begun to transition.
Simon is his name.
What does an almost forty-year-old, out and proud lesbian do when her partner comes out as a transgender male?
...I am a lesbian who woke up one day married to a man — and I couldn’t be happier or more proud of him or of us.
Just don’t assume I’m straight."